Choosing peace isn’t always easy. Some people can’t choose it because having a voice could cost them their safety. Not everyone lives in the same kind of chaos. Some are trapped in physical or emotional abuse where speaking up is dangerous; for them, silence becomes their way of survival. But when you’re on equal ground, peace means learning when to stand, when to speak, and when to put out the fire.
We abuse ourselves when we stop speaking up for ourselves. This isn’t about being confrontational—it’s about self-advocacy. You have to be your own advocate for peace, because no one else will carry that responsibility. If you have a peace advocate, consider yourself blessed. If not, you have to muster up the power to do it yourself.
There are those who thrive on chaos, and they are spiritually recognized as disturbers of peace. They’ll light a fire just to feel alive. You don’t have to join them in their desire for misery.
Find your fire extinguisher — your tool that helps you put out their flame before it pulls you in. That’s temptation you have to overcome. Use your fire extinguisher every time someone tries to drag you into conflict for their own satisfaction. That’s what real self-advocacy looks like: refusing to be fuel for someone else’s flame.
Some spiritual leaders advise people to walk away from chaos. I’m not one to disagree, but I believe in finding the wisdom within. Chaos comes in many forms, and wisdom unfolds on many levels. Your inner god will reveal what’s needed when you’re living by divine principles.
Leaving is necessary for those who can’t advocate for themselves or people trapped in physical or mental abuse. For them, escape is survival. But when you’re dealing with someone on equal ground, peace doesn’t always mean walking away. It means knowing how to stand up to opposition, when to speak, and when to use that inner fire extinguisher with wisdom to keep things from burning out of control.
Peace doesn’t just happen — it’s maintained. It’s the daily work of standing firm, speaking truth, and keeping your conscious mind out of the fire while learning to work in harmony with your soul or spirit.
There’s no single formula for peace. It’s a living practice you troubleshoot, test, refine, and repeat with a new solution. This is your life and your inner body — placing your own situation under a spiritual microscope is an important step in choosing peace.
Answers appear each time you seek a solution, even if that solution is temporary. It worked — and that’s what matters in that moment. When you take the time to evaluate, you’ll see how each one can work independently or alongside other solutions or tools.
I could give you my solutions, but then you’d never seek to connect with that part of yourself where your inner God reveals answers meant for you. I’d be enabling dependency instead of helping you build trust in your own divine guidance.
Healing happens in both chaos and peace, but the process looks very different. In chaos, the lessons keep repeating themselves until you find the root cause or choose peace over the storm. Healing becomes harder when your emotions, body, and mind are pulled in too many directions. Peace, on the other hand, gives your spirit space to guide and restore you.
When you learn to advocate for your peace, you create the environment your soul needs to do its work. Each time you quiet a storm, step back from drama, or refuse to let someone pull you into their fire, you strengthen your ability to heal. That’s where transformation happens — in the moments when you stop reacting and start listening to the voice within.
Healing isn’t just about feeling better. It’s about learning differently — understanding that peace doesn’t end the lesson; it helps you finally pass it.
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A Spiritual Healing Reflection by Rev. Starlene Joyner Burns — President & Founder, Free Healing USA
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